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Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - UnicornSmudge - 08-17-2018
Sometimes unicorns gets upset and hits itself in the face. This is bad because unicorns already has TMJ. Called the crisis line after and they helped talk me down but also cried more for a long time after. Unicorns is very stressed and now has a sore face and probably a bruise on the leg. Wrists hurt. Very exhausted. Didn't run the car into oncoming traffic though, didnt run the car off of the high cliffs either, didnt break any bones or draw blood. Now laying in bed but face is sore. Unicorns feels sad that it gets upset and causes itself this problem. It happpens when unicorns doesn't know what to do and feels helpless, like a failure, or cant provide itself what it needs, feels alone and like no one wants to be around them. This sort of reaction has happened before when unicorns has had to move the last couple times because it was all unexpected and unicorns just needs a safe place to be for long enough to sorth the things and build itslef back into a real unicorn
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - SuperHeroAnimals - 08-17-2018
The SuperHeroAnimals are sorry to hear Unicorns had such a rough day. The SHA own a Big Person, and BP used to bite himself when he became quite upset.
BP knows what it is like to loose control, and just how very important it is to have a long-term safe place called home.
Has Unicorns tried DBT? It can be very helpful in this sort of situation.
Hope Unicorns sleeps well and wakes up feeling much better.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - UnicornSmudge - 08-17-2018
@SuperHeroAnimals
Thanks, SHA for your understanding words. unicorns has tried dbt many times since 2009 but it doesn't help when unicorns is upset. Or, UnicornS cannot access it when unicorns is upset to this degree. The fuse grows shorter.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - SuperHeroAnimals - 08-17-2018
Yes, BP and the SHA understand how difficult it is to access DBT skills when upset.
This is when a DBT therapist - a one-on-one DBT therapist comes in handy. Said therapist agrees to be available by phone between sessions. The client calls the therapist whenever she is having trouble, and the therapist helps her access her DBT skills and use her Wise Mind. Eventually, the client learns how to access her DBT skills all by herself when she needs them.
Here is a wonderful little book, written by an ex-borderline. It tells all about how she used this method to learn to cope. Unicorns might not be borderline, but this method could really help.
https://www.amazon.com/Buddha-Borderline-Recovery-Personality-Dialectical/dp/157224710X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534559421&sr=8-1&keywords=borderline+and+the+buddha
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - UnicornSmudge - 08-18-2018
@SuperHeroAnimals thanks for the suggestion. Unicorns will look into the book. The local crisis line here functions similarly. Unicorns asked them to talk it down. Unicorns had another fit later and actually did themself worse.... but then had a conversation about the triggers with the person that triggered and clarified some things. Will need to rest a few days and take antiinflammatories. And rethink things.
Thanks for your support and suggestions
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - SuperHeroAnimals - 08-18-2018
The SHA are very glad Unicorns uses the local crisis line so wisely.
Kudos to Unicorns for discussing the trigger with the triggerer.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - Ashley - 08-18-2018
Ashley wishes she could nuke President Duck for Unicorns but Mr. NSA man is a thing.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - UnicornSmudge - 08-18-2018
(08-18-2018, 01:41 AM)Ashley Wrote: Ashley wishes she could nuke President Duck for Unicorns but Mr. NSA man is a thing.
Unicorns are so glad you find that so humorous, Ashley
. It's good to find things to laugh about when we are down. Despite being so sore this morning, this made unicorns chuckle.@SuperHeroAnimals thank you. A lot of the trigger was because of unstated things or unfinished conversation which led unicorns to a conclusion that wasn't as true as unicorns thought. Because of unicorns history and bad luck streak and similar situations in the last couple years, unicorns concluded things were bad based on experience and it seemed so logical that A should lead to B, B being a state of where something unicorns depends on is being taken away and where unicorns feels they cannot help themselves out of the situation. This causes unicorns to become upset with themselves for being incapable, on top of the anxiety over instability. Unicorns and others are Still working things out. All parties care a lot about each other but finds a lot of issues within the relationships amd situations as well. This is family though.
For now, unicorns is resting and realizing that they have so much work to do on self. Must rest first.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - Ashley - 08-18-2018
@UnicornSmudge Really? I hope that's all it does. It could come back to bite us in the ascii.
It was a selfish thing to say on the internet and I apologize.
RE: Could trigger idk..unicorms were very upset today. - UnicornSmudge - 08-18-2018
@Ashley oh unicorns are so confused