7 Tips to Calm Anxiety

[Eight Ball]

Severe anxiety and chronic insomnia were the first thing I was diagnosed with more than 30 years ago.  My problem is that I know all about what I can do to help myself, but I just won't do most of it (though, I always do belly breathing because it's so easy and has such an immediate relaxing and calming effect and reminds me of meditation).  Unfortunately, when my severe depression; self-destructive, suicidal ideation and nagging chronic pain are in charge, I don't want to help myself, I want to hurt myself - until things spiral out of control, and my arm is twisted.  This is probably my most serious problem.  I know how my life drastically changes for the better when I meditate twice a day, but instead, I do nothing - I remain in a state of constant distraction from myself and all my baggage, a state of chronic procrastination, and the hole's just getting deeper.  I am beginning to think that doing a month or two in the laughing academy might be necessary to break myself out of this perpetual funk.  Normally, I would have been there at least twice already, but since My Beloved made me promise to live if not for myself, then for him, and since he seems free from the death curse I have on my friends and partners (so far), I'm utterly lost.  I've never had a long term relationship in my life because they all died within four years (unless you count my suicidal, depressed family), and I've never lived without being able to top myself whenever I damn well pleased, either.  I just seem stuck in this death-wish-self-destruction mode, yet perpetually denied the catharsis of getting on the bus stop, not to mention a little of the psychiatric "ultra violence" to shake things up. 

        (You want some cheese with that whine?   )

    Back on topic.  What I find intriguing is the research that shows that the source of anxiety is not always as straight forward as we thought.  It's not always caused by fear - real, imagined or remembered - but can be a result of genetic changes, inherited genes, head trauma, cognitive rewiring, etc.

Anxiety - links to some very interesting scientific research:

Brain injury patterns linked to post-concussion depression, anxiety
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/201...072314.htm

Biology of anxious temperament may lie with a problem in an anxiety 'off switch'
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/201...082133.htm

Researchers identify new spectrum disorder called ALPIM syndrome Clarifies relationship between anxiety, physical disorders
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/201...132642.htm

Gene found responsible for susceptibility to panic disorder
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/201...133921.htm

Study of Holocaust survivors finds trauma passed on to children's genes
http://www.theguardian.com/science/2015/...rens-genes

Depression, overwhelming guilt in preschool years linked to brain changes
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/201...161036.htm

Childhood trauma causes life-long genetic alterations
http://www.sott.net/article/254326-Child...lterations

    Since we're on the subject, I thought I'd list two very good self-help pages for anxiety from among the hundereds of articles you can find all over the web.  The first is for panic attacks but it works just as well for GAD, etcetera; and the second is a very good DBT Distress tolerance how-to.

How to Calm Yourself During an Anxiety Attack 
http://m.wikihow.com/Calm-Yourself-Durin...ety-Attack

DBT - Distress Tolerance & Self-Soothing
http://dbtselfhelp.com/html/using_self_soothe.html


Peace & Love,

P.S. Oh, belly breathing is a deeper, slower form of breathing that enables oxygen saturation and tells our bodies and our brains that everything is ok and we are not in danger. When our brain gets that message it stops kicking out stress hormones and slows our heart rate back down, thus relieving anxiety.